“Shop Till You Drop”

Or run out of money…


As far back as I can remember I have loved to shop. It all began sometime in the early 50’s, Mom would take me and then me and my sister Rhonda downtown every Friday night. We would go to the Bon Ton Tea Room for dinner and “shop till we dropped”. Then happy and fulfilled and loaded down with shopping bags, we would head home on the bus. Thus began my love of shopping.

It still continues, this obsession with shopping. It is my therapy. My thing. Everyone has something, I have shopping. I absolutely love it. I know there are a lot of people who hate shopping, but I’m sure they have something like it in their lives. I have friends these days that get a box full of items sent to them with tops, bottoms and accessories all in the box. Bam! Everything you could possibly need in one box. But what’s the fun in that? Half the fun is in the find! You can quote me on that one.

I usually go with someone, a friend or my daughter. It’s more fun with someone, it’s a social thing. And you have someone that can either talk you out of or into buying something, We got this love of shopping from Mom, it’s her fault we spend. She didn’t  drink, smoke or play cards or anything that women from her day did, she shopped. And she loved it. She passed that love onto me, my sister Rhonda, my nieces and my daughters and now even my grand daughter. My youngest daughter isn’t as obsessed as the oldest and myself, but she does have her moments. They just aren’t as frequent as ours.

Since I am not working I don’t have the excuse of needing new outfits for work. I am trying to simplify and declutter. So the whole shopping thing is not nearly as much fun. When you don’t have an excuse and also don’t have as much money you have to look for a new way to enjoy your “therapy.” My new plan is to carry the items I find and love around the entire time I’m in the store, enjoy it, picture myself wearing it and then put them back before leaving the store. I pretend I am buying them and don’t actually spend the money. It is working so far. I’ve only tried it one time…

Buying things you don’t need or don’t really have the money for is stressful. The short term thrill isn’t worth the depression or regret later. I have been thinking about this since I recently saw an article about “why we have the need to shop”. A few clinical psychologists have done research and found that reason we shop and buy things is a need for a social connection or relationship in one form or another. Also it is known to be a form of anxiety relief. Someone going through a crisis or life transition will shop to release the tension and stressors. (at least until the bill comes due)

The same doctors or whatever they were, went on to say that shopping can be addictive.(duh) And they saw spikes in dopamine activity in the group they were testing. It is especially so when it comes to bargain hunters and events like Black Friday sales. So at least I have a reason and a good one at that, for my love of shopping. It is somewhat comforting to know I have a clinical affliction and therefore can’t help myself from buying that new purse.

It isn’t just women who love to shop, while they are probably the ones that do it the most, there are a lot of men who love to shop too. They just shop for different things…cars, tools, car parts and many kinds of collectable items, like old baseball cards. My son loves tools and would buy them every day if his wife would let him. Seriously..tools?

I also read that successful people wear the same thing every day. Einstein wore grey suits. Steve Jobs wore a black turtleneck. And Mark Zuckerberg wears a tee shirt and jeans every single day. Notice there were no women on this list, I guess it must be a “man thing.” They really have no need to shop and can easily pick items from their closets each morning without stressing about “what to wear.” Again, what’s the fun in that?

And so I’m simplifying and decluttering and not buying as much(well not quite as much). The getting rid of things part is a whole other thing and hard. How do I get rid of that leather jacket I wore to the Aerosmith concert? But, I’ll tell you one thing, I will not give up shopping. You will see me, a little old lady on my scooter, scooting around Walmart, shopping till I drop. On second thought….no, I just can’t do Walmart, no matter how old I am. It will have to be TJMaxx.

Ok, I’ll admit it… my name is Renee and I’m a “Shopaholic”….


12 thoughts on ““Shop Till You Drop”

  1. Renee – You know me…I’m not much of a shopper, but I do it once a year. I have one word for you: Goodwill (or other store affiliated with a charitable organization). Shop there (especially one in a nice neighborhood) and you get a two- or three-fer. Your purchase is a donation to Goodwill, you have found a bargain, and when you get tired of the outfit, you can re-donate it. When it’s in a high-end area, you may find nice designer clothes that were never worn and still have the tags on. What I’ll do is buy something, then try it on when I get home and if I don’t like it, it goes in the Goodwill bag for my next visit.

  2. Love this, Renee!! It’s so true! Since we lived so close, we may have been on that bus together!! 🙂 LOVED the one & only Tea Room. There has been nothing like it since. Thank you for the wonderful memories & that adorable picture of the three of you!

  3. I can’t find the words to tell you how much I love that photograph! I’m not a big fan of shopping, but my mom is. Always has been. She converted my old bedroom into a giant closet. I’m pretty sure she goes in there and pets her sweaters.

  4. OMG, this is the BEST ONE YET…Love it…chuckled whole way thru. You see I’m the TOTAL OPPOSITE..I hate shopping. Never really enjoyed it…maybe when I graduated and earned my first paycheck, but now, I NEVER go shopping …very seldom anyhow, not even for other people. Give money as gifts now, lol. But now I gotta one of these days to find something to wear to my 50th reunion in August…wanna be STYLISH and make them other old broads jealous….lmao…..Love you sweetie, this was awesome. AND PS: was that part on all items in the box referring to our one and only friend JF??? lololol HUGS

  5. This is your best blog topic so far! I certainly can relate to each and every point! I too love to shop and learned from my Grandma Elsie at an early age. She was always welcomed by the sales ladies at Jack’s and Bear’s and Sitler’s Millinery. She was a very good customer and looking back those ladies were good at “sucking up”!
    I noticed that you have ‘friends’ that ‘shop the box ‘!! So please put me in touch with the other Box Shoppers so we can unite!! Bahaha!! I just got one today and I haven’t had time to peek inside at my ‘treasures’ . FYI , I never received a whole outfit in one box. From MY input, it’s up to my stylist to build a wardrobe from my input and feedback. I was just about to ‘drop the box’ when the next one I got was awesome. So, for now, I’m still hooked!
    I still like to shop but haven’t had much time. Summer is just so busy with golf, gardening and pool parties. I think in the Fall when I have two half days all to myself I will explore the stores once again and share my bargin finds with you. Of course before you know it I’ll be Christmas Shopping time and that’s a huge task with my big family!
    My biggest ‘shop till you drop’ time came with the fire of ’08 and I (we) picked out everything for the new
    house to be built and then furnished it and then had to buy whole new wardrobes!! I wasn’t so much into needing a ‘FIX’ after that!
    I do miss Downtown York of the 50’s & 60’s. I have so many good memories of riding the bus into town with a girlfriend or going shopping and doing lunch at the Tea Room with my Grandma, Great Aunt and Second Cousin.
    Thanks Renee for the thoughts and the memories!

    1. You are so welcome Joanie! Thank you for reading and your comments…We will have to go shopping some time in the fall..

  6. Yes, you are but I was impressed with you not buying anything during your visit to Vt! I don’t shop that much anymore mostly because the stores are so far away and it’s not as convenient. My new addiction is selling things because just like buying a good find….I love a good sale! I am also addicted to buying things on Craigslist and getting good free stuff which there’s a lot of up here! I learned from the best bargain shoppers a girl could have…you and Grandma! Lol!

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