In Search Of The Perfect Pillow…

is there even such a thing?

pillow puffed and ready to go

pillow puffed and ready to go

I have been in search of the “perfect pillow” for quite a while now. Maybe as long as 10 years.. And in that time I have purchased and rejected at least 15 pillows. The pillow I am using now I got about a year ago and I have to say when I first got it I loved it, it was indeed “the perfect pillow”…now not so much.

I never had a problem with a pillow when I was younger. I just went to bed and slept comfortably on my side and woke up ready to go(well maybe not ready to go, but woke up feeling fine). I only used one pillow for many years and then had to have two. I needed a little bit more support. I don’t think I ever even gave my pillow a second thought. It was just there waiting for me when I crawled in bed. Then a few years ago I started having problems with my neck at times and finally attributed it to the pillow/pillows I was using. I had to travel for work during this time and when I was at a hotel I noticed I didn’t have the neck problems when I woke up. I didn’t really give it much thought at first but after a few times it made me stop and think about why I was feeling so much better when I woke up at the hotel as opposed to at home. I felt great. I slept soundly and my neck felt relaxed all day. This happened every single time I went there and it was at least once a month if not more. I loved those pillows. And I had to have one!

I would forget all about the pillows until the whole neck thing would return and believe me, it did return. And then I would be at the hotel again and it was better. So I decided I had to find those pillows no matter what. I searched online and of course on Amazon, my go to site for everything. I found so many “hotel” pillows I wasn’t sure which one to get. So I looked the next time I was at the hotel as to the brand name they had there. Well, that was of no help as It was just the name of the hotel, they wanted you to buy their brand. I looked it up and they were $75 for one pillow, one pillow. I never paid more than $25 for a pillow and wasn’t about to do it now. I found one with rave reviews and purchased it. It cost $45. I didn’t think I would ever pay that much for a pillow but when you think about how much time you spend sleeping I guess its worth it.

I purchased the pillow and loved it. I could wait to unpack it and try it out. It was wonderful and truly worth every penny. I slept soundly and my neck did not bother me. I told everyone about my wonderful pillow. I was in heaven.¬†I have had the pillow for about a year now and it’s “broken.” The reviews did say that after a while the pillow gets flat. Flat??? Flat is an understatement. It bunches up at the top but down at the bottom(where your head and neck are) it is nonexistent. It’s like I am sleeping on my arm, because I have my arm under it to give me a smidgen of support. If you take the pillow and put it in the dryer and fluff it, it is fine…for 5 minutes. But then it’s back to the new pancake style pillow I now own.

what my pillow looks like

what my pillow looks like on my bed


There is another issue as well. Not only does my “new” pillow not give me any support, it makes my hair flat. Flat hair, just like the flat pillow. I’m really not liking this at all. I don’t even understand how it does that. Anyone that knows me knows my hair is curly and somewhat puffy. How can a pillow manage to flatten my hair? So its back to the drawing board and the never ending search. I found one on Amazon, it is Bamboo, it’s made in America and its $49.99. I think I may try it.

I am hoping this will work. I am into this whole “earthy” Bamboo thing since I got my Bamboo mattress pad. I love it, is very comfy and cool in the summer and keeps me warm in the winter.



So that’s the deal. I really hope I find the perfect pillow. I am always searching for something. I think my life would be dull without a quest of some kind to keep me entertained. It keeps me on my toes. Speaking of toes, I would rather it be shoes I am looking for.. Oh, never mind, I am still looking for the perfect pair of flats.

I leave you once again my friends with a quote and a question. In fact two quotes, I couldn’t decide which one I liked best so I thought I would give you both.

“A ruffled mind makes a restless pillow.” ~ Charlotte Bronte

“Fatigue is the best pillow.” ~ Benjamin Franklin

Do you have a favorite pillow? If its great and you love it, tell me about it in the comments. I may try it.

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27 thoughts on “In Search Of The Perfect Pillow…

  1. I had the same problem! I learned in my anatomy training that you SHOULD have a pillow that is more flat because a thicker pillow crestes pressure as the cervical spine curves forward…hence why we get neck pain. So I got a Yogasleep pillow on Amazon for $49. It is flatter in the center when sleeping on your back and is fluffier on the sides for side sleeping. Took a little getting used to but I really love it and no more neck pain! Good luck!

  2. I too, have searched for the perfect pillow, I actually have one but it is at least 25 years old and I need to replace it. Of course, that pillow is no longer being made and I have settled for sorry substitutes,if you ever hit the jackpot, please pass on the information. Good luck to us

    1. Oh my gosh Bonnie, 25 years…too funny. I did get a bamboo one, will post in a few weeks on how it goes…LOL!

  3. I was laughing the whole time I was reading this. Sorry, but you have a great sense of humour. I just wanted to say pillows tend to flatten a lot. I have been having a problem with my continental pillows. The outside material was very fail so it tore and I have to patch it up. Which I did but it kept tearing, so I made myself a new cover. And made the pillows smaller (half their size, by the way) so they can have a nice puff. But am starting to think that maybe we need to buy new pillows often. Buy affordable ones often, type of thing…. Probably the best pillow you’ll have is one you make yourself. You should try that

    1. I am glad you enjoyed it! Thank you… and that is a good idea, maybe I will go into the pillow making business! I do think sometimes the only way to get something just right is to make it yourself…

  4. This makes me feel like I need to do some pillow shopping. I didn’t do any research before grabbing one from the superstore! haha And come to think of it I have neck problems too (probably more stress related). Still interesting!

  5. You are not the only one on this quest. I bought a temperpedic pillow and it is okay, but still not my perfect pillow. I am not sure one exists.

    1. Jen, not sure it does…much like the perfect lipstick…even when you do find it, they discontinue it…Thanks for your comments..

  6. I started working in a bedding company about four months ago.In one of my first meetings I found out what “memory foam” was made of so I threw out my pillow right away (trust me is gross) I replace with a pillow from southern tide and I love it.Unfortunelty I learn your supose to switch out your pillows every 6 months and I love it so much I might have to repurchase it aain even if I dont want to.

    1. “Every six months” for heavens sake…that is ridiculous, If and when I finally find one I don’t want to have to get rid of it in 6 months…I bought a bamboo one last night at Marshalls, going to test it out tonight!

  7. I need a new pillow, too, Renee!! I hate to tell you how old mine is – you wouldn’t believe it!! Mine is flat, too, but I tuck the one end under & shove it into the crook (is that how you spell it?) of my neck! It’s actually split & pulling apart but it goes where I go but to be honest, it’s not all that comfortable! I can’t sleep on one that’s too thick, though, cause that bothers me, too. I’m doomed! LOL Good luck with your search!

    1. Thanks and Dinah I need to know how old your pillow is…you shouldn’t keep a pillow that long…LOL! I will let you know if I find anything good…

  8. I know exactly what you are going through. I finally got a memory foam pillow for side sleepers ($14.99 at TJ Maxx) !! It has little give and weighs a ton! But it has made a difference. Good luck in your search.

  9. Thankfully, all pillows are perfect as far as I’m concerned. All I need is a dark quiet room and I’m fast asleep, whether my pillow is ideal or not. GOOD LUCK finding your dream pillow and let is know all about it when you do.

    1. Roz, thanks I will..LOL! I can sleep fine…its just how I feel the next day that is the problem..oh and the flat hair…

  10. Anyone ever try MY PILLOW? I see it advertised but sorry $49 for a pillow, no way, I manage to sleep on $10 pillows, baha. Maybe not GOOD, but I can sleep with a throw pillow!!

    1. Heard good things and bad about the My Pillow…think I will try the Bamboo one! If you can’t sleep well on a pillow then it is worth spending a little more for one that you can sleep well on…actually it isn’t that I can’t sleep well on them, it is how I feel when I wake up. Thanks Susie!

    1. Thanks Jenny! I will update with my quest and certainly if I find the Bamboo pillow works! I will shout it from the roof tops!

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